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Saturday, August 02, 2014

A sentimental fool

Let's accept it the days of showing emotions (except perhaps anger) are long gone. Today I have on countless occasions met people who will keep a stiff upper lip in the middle of crisis. Yes I admire people who can keep such a strict control over their emotions but the otherside  of the argument is that it's unhealthy not to show emotion. After all the natural way to any situation is to cry in sorrow and laugh in joy or sometimes to cry for joy. I for one am a sentimental old fool and have no problems acknowledging it. I cry at all funerals even if I didn't know the person well. I cry at weddings because it's all so emotional. I cry when I hear a touching speech . In short I wear my heart on my sleeve . To me it's perfectly natural. When I loose a loved on for me it's sorrow,it's grief,it's complete devastation and for that moment my life is over and I cry for my loss. Which is why I find it so hard to go for funerals and see dry eyes all around. I accept the argument that the person has lived a good life and has found peace etc but this is about the living and their loss. What does one say to people who won't accept grief or refuse to show their emotion?. I still remember the worlds shocked reaction to Diana Spencer's death. More than the sorrow of loosing a much loved person,the shock was that the British public gave vent to their feelings. Crying openly and on the streets marked a strange turn in the emotional lives of an otherwise cold British psyche. It was a healthy change on my opinion. Emotions are meant to be felt,it's healthy to feel and acknowledge them and it's healing to give into your emotions. Ofcourse there is a time and place for it but funerals ,weddings,birth of children etc are all occasions of sorrow and joy and must be acknowledged but as the world around me chooses to be in denial,I will continue to be emotional. Call me a sentimental fool,but atleast it shows that I am sensitive.life is meant to be lived in all it's fullness and emotions are part of it